Hygge – How to live in the moment?

I came across a report called the World Happiness Report 2020. Yes, believe it or not, there is a report for measuring the happiness of the citizens of a country! Every year since 2012, the United Nations has been publishing The World Happiness Report, which ranks 156 countries. The happiness being measured here is from the context of life satisfaction and subjective well-being of a citizen in a country.

I noticed that at least 3 out of 5 Nordic countries have been in the top 5 countries of the World Happiness Report ranking since 2012 (inception of the World Happiness Report) and all the 5 Nordic countries have been ranked in the top 10 in all the years since 2013.

Here are the Nordic Countries for reference (in no particular order):

  • Denmark
  • Norway
  • Sweden
  • Iceland
  • Finland

Discussion on the factors used to rank the countries in the World happiness Reports is for another article. But in my research about the Nordic countries, one of many reasons for their happiness caught my eye, and it is called HYGGE. The first time I saw this word, I pronounced it as Haiga, turns out, it is native to the Danish culture/lifestyle in Denmark and it is pronounced as “hue-guh”.

Though the word Hygge originated in the Norwegian Language (Norway), the Danish people have internalized it in their very culture and is central to their lifestyle.

So, what is this Hygge really?

Hygge does not have a single, sure shot definition. It is vaguely described as well-being, a feeling of coziness, comfort & togetherness. Hygge is more like a feeling than just a word. Like being happy and experiencing joy & pleasure, Hygge is also a feeling & a mental experience. The Danish people have made this to be part of their culture and practice it in their daily lives.

Hygge is best described with a short scene:

“Imagine that you are in a snowy hill station with four of your friends. It is moderately snowing at dusk and it is -4⁰C/25⁰F at around 7 pm. Everyone is packed in their cozy woollen clothing with sweaters, scarves & jackets. As you all walk back home together from a marketplace, you notice the whole street is decorated with lights and stars because it is the week leading up to Christmas. There is no other place you would want to be because you feel a sense of belonging among your friends and the atmosphere is welcoming.

As you walk, you come across a beautiful bakery with an aromatic smell of bread and coffee flooding the street. So, you all decide to walk in, buy a sizeable cake & some cookies for later. You continue to walk back home, chit-chatting.

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After reaching home, one of your friends sets up the fireplace, one of them arranges the seats around it, one is brewing hot coffee for everyone and another friend is helping you cut the cake in pieces and place the cookies on a plate. Everybody is contributing to the chores. There is a sense of harmony and truce in the air. The lights are dim and candles are lit, apt for the feeling of warmth inside, opposing the chilling weather.

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You all sit in front of the fireplace, getting comfortable in your knitted woollen socks and sweater, sipping the hot coffees, and eating your favorite cake and cookies bought earlier. The phones are shut and away. You all talk about life in general, there is no drama and politics is at bay, nobody dominates and takes centre stage while speaking, everybody is equal. There is mild music playing on the speakers while you all play a board game in the moment. You are listening to the crackle from the burning firewood. There is a feeling of gratitude and togetherness in the air. You have never been so present in your life.”

Every single component in this story represents Hygge. It includes four basic things, the atmosphere, the food, the people, and the right mentality.

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  • Hygge Atmosphere – It is all those materials that amp up the aesthetics and create the hygge ambiance (including clothing), starting with the dim lights, candles, comfy pillows, blankets, knitted socks/sweater/scarfs, fireplace, plants, minimal home decor and so on that makes you feel safe, warm and content.
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  • Hygge Food – It is the comfort foods that give us simple pleasures like, cake, cookies, hot chocolate/coffee, sweets, soup, wine, and also the various local traditional food.
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  • Hygge People – Meik Wiking, CEO of The Happy Research Institute and the author of “The Little Book of Hygge – The Danish Way To Live Well”, says, “The best predictor of whether we are happy or not is our social relationships. It is the clearest and most reoccurring pattern I see when I look at the evidence on why some people are happier than others.

From the previous article on this blog “Roseto Effect – How to be happy and stress-free”, we saw that the Rosetans lived long, happy and stress-free lives because of their natural habit of socializing day in and day out. The Rosetans had been, in a way, practicing Hygge as part of their culture without even knowing what it was. Socializing with the people is integral to being in the state of Hygge. Being with people just amps up the Hygge Quotient because you are sharing your space with someone you feel safe and are at ease.

  • Hygge Mentality – It is basically the modest attitude among the people where everybody is equal and nobody is acting dominant in the gathering. Social status flies out the window and others are welcome into your comfort zone.

Hygge is about feeling content by experiencing simplicity with intentional interaction and gratitude. It is also about pausing from the fast-paced & hectic lives we live, taking a step back, and just appreciating what we have in the moment. Meik Wiking says in the book “It is giving the hot chocolate with whipped cream the attention it deserves. In short, indulgence. Hygge is about the now, how to enjoy and make the best of it”.

From looking at how Hygge is described, it seems like it is more of a concept of the winter, which it truly is. The Nordics, experience this feeling of being content and cozy in the dead winters. They make the already gloomy and dull winter more bearable. The Danes consider the Christmas month to be the most Hygge month in the whole year because of the extreme weather and the festive atmosphere.

From being in the Top 10 Words of the Year 2016 in Collin’s Dictionary to being famous for the winter lifestyle, Google agrees so about the keyword search patterns for the word “Hygge”:

The keywords are scaled based on popularity with 100 being high on popularity and 0 being the least popular, over time. It is evident that Hygge becomes very popular as a keyword search during the winter season in December and January every year since 2016 when people caught on to the trend of Hygge.

But, some of us have not experienced the bone-chilling winter season and live in the tropics or coastal areas, what does Hygge mean to them?

Hygge in the summers is simply the same winter Hygge without the chilly winter. The intent of getting together with people, being modest as an individual, and eating your favorite food, still stays integral to the feeling of Hygge. It is about going on a picnic at the beach or traveling to the nearest place for a short weekend trip with your family and friends. Just spending time talking, playing frisbee, board games, sharing all the food, and just reminiscing about old times.

It is just not about going on a trip with a jam-packed itinerary, it is about taking your time there. Hygge can also happen at home over a movie at the weekend with popcorn. Indeed, 70% of the Danes feel that home is where they feel the most Hygge and Meik Wiking calls home the Hygge Headquarters in his book because you can control the atmosphere but going out in the summers is just as Hygge.

There is way more to what Hygge is than just being able to cram the concept into an article. If you ask the Danish people what Hygge is, they would start and never end trying to explain what Hygge means to them because there is so much more about the lifestyle that it is not easy to explain all the nitty-gritty of the vast culture of Hygge.

Denmark & the Nordic countries among many other countries having a similar culture like Hygge are trying their best to keep the basic human culture of togetherness and contentment intact in the 21st century, we might as well jump on the train. 😊


Why we sleep? – Matthew Walker | Book Review

Why we sleep? by Matthew Walker (professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley).

This book was definitely an eye opener. Matthew Walker was thoroughly able to put the importance of sleep in my mind with some experimental results. The major take away from this book would be that sleep in itself is an all in one medicine for our health in terms of both mental and physical. Sleep has been the one stop medicine that has been with us throughout our lives, 8 hours a day, and we tend to over look this thing called sleep to try and make the most of life by staying awake. But, instead, this book emphasizes that you need to sleep and reset your body, in order to make the most of life being awake.

Neither does the book delve into how those that are able to perform their best and sleep only for 4-5 hours, nor does it say how to hack your sleep and do less of that to magically stay awake for longer. But it mentions that, for the majority of humanity, people are at the mercy of sleep, which is pretty evident outside the book, in our life itself. If you don’t sleep the night before, you feel groggy and irritated the whole day, for which the inverse is true as well. A goodnight’s sleep is much appreciated when you feel energetic and happy.

The book also mentions how sleep directly affects the productivity of an industry, and furthermore the economy of a nation, which is pretty intuitive, but with no evidence that it does. So, hopefully more leaders read this book and bring in effect the habit of sleep in their employees to improve the overall efficiency of the organization. Seeing is believing, but until the visceral idea of leading the market by share comes out of these leaders, it is hard to see how increased sleep helps increase the productivity and furthermore the revenue of an organization, industry, country or the world itself.

P.S – I could not think of technically criticizing this book or the author. I stuck to the feeling of how sleep can have an affect on my overall performance and quality of life. 🙂


Roseto Effect – How to be happy and stress-free?

I came across this widely read book called Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell. It starts with a story about the residents of a secluded town called Roseto in Pennsylvania, United States. The book itself describes how success is not just about hard work but also the circumstances that enables a person to put in that hard work in the first place. This is insightful because it makes you think about how you can make some conscious choices on your road to success.

But what intrigued me was this story about the town of Roseto. Roseto was named after a town in Italy called “Roseto Valfortore” from where a number of Italian immigrants came to the United States in small chunks in the late 1800s looking for opportunities. By the 1940s, it was a very simple town with 1700 people living in houses clustered with each other. The Rosetans had typical lives where the men went for work and the women took care of the house & worked in the day, the children went to school and returned back home to their grandparents.

The town itself became self-sustained over time and had no reason to stay in touch with the neighboring towns. Nobody knew what Roseto was really up to. In the 1950s, while people from all the towns visited a local physician with illnesses, rarely anybody from Roseto under the age of 65 years happened to visit him with a “Heart Disease”.

A comparison study of deaths due to Myocardial Infarction (Heart Attack), of people over 35 years of age shows that between 1955-1964 there were 29 deaths per 1000 people in Roseto but in a neighboring town called Bangor, which is only a mile away, there were 196 deaths per 1000 people. If we look at the numbers for 20 years before that, between 1935-1954 per 1000 people there were only 28 deaths in Roseto but 221 deaths in Bangor.

This is especially surprising because, Rosetans had one of the unhealthiest diets, they were struggling with obesity and were heavy smokers. Neither did they work-out nor did they go for morning walks and none of them had an active lifestyle. Yet, the people of Roseto rarely had any heart disease. There has to be a secret native to just Roseto.

Rosetans turned the “I” into a “We”

In a more general context, we are always taught in life to be independent and think as an individual for yourself. This makes us think about questions like:

  • Am I happy right now?
  • Am I doing what I like?
  • Did I make a good first impression?
  • Is what I am doing in my best interest and will that benefit me? If yes how?

A common thing about the questions is, there is too much of “I” in it. These questions take us from one thing to another and we realize that we have become too involved with ourselves. This makes us overly self-conscious, anxious, impatient and shifts our focus away from the important people around us who really matter.

Rosetans turned the “I” into a “We”. They intentionally did not hide the secret to their low death rate due to heart disease, the secret simply was in the way they lived. They were a classic example of how a supportive “Community” should be. The fact that there were rarely a few people with heart disease, was at complete odds with the unhealthy lifestyle they had. They were just a bunch of happy people with no major age-related illnesses and just died of old age.  

The People of Roseto lived like they were one Big Family and that was their secret. Even though the smaller families were independent to a certain degree, they all lived like a close-knit community. Majority of them were part of at least one community group and they spent time with each other doing things as simple as talking & playing cards and board games. They also went together on evening strolls and visited church for festivals. The houses had at least 3 generations of a family living under one roof unlike the nuclear families we see now.

The people and neighbors in general, supported each other in times of distress, just like people in a family would do. Materialism was not a thing at all and everyone lived modest lives including the wealthy who were not flamboyant. All of this resulted in very low stress levels among the Rosetans. So essentially, to live happy and stress free, we’ll have to live like the Rosetans.   

Some key takeaways on how to be happy and stress-free like the Rosetans:

  1. Find ways to spend time with supportive and caring people. They can be family members or friends who might just be the right mental support one needs.
  2. Live modest lives without endlessly wanting more.
  3. Meet people in person more often, than making up for it by chatting on social media (like we do now).
  4. Genuinely care for others around you, they might actually take it forward and care for others.

BUT, then there came a time…

Rosetans were happy and stress-free for sure, but then there came a time when the grandparents and older residents started dying due to old age. Men and women of the town were hardworking and they did so for the betterment of their children. When these children grew up, they moved out of town for better education. Intuitively, the social culture of spending time with and helping each other out started fading.

People were less satisfied with what they had and looked towards a more materialistic life to satisfy themselves. They started building fences around their houses and bought expensive cars looking at their neighbors. Inevitably, this was as a result of the increasing average household income in the United States over the decades from 1935 onwards.

Average household income in the United States was approximately $2,000 in 1935 and this increased to $6,000 in 1960. From this point on in the 1960s till the early 2000s, income levels were on a steep rise. In 1972, average household income was approximately $11,000 which increased (more than double) by 118% to $24,000 in 1984.

  • Do income levels have any relation with the rates of heart attacks resulting from stressful and unhappy lives?
  • Has chasing for more, left us with less?
  • Does materialism really bring happiness?

According to WHO fact sheet (2018), out of all causes of human deaths, the most common in the world is Ischaemic Heart Disease which approximately took 9.5 million lives in 2016. The fact sheet also gives a breakup of the top 10 causes of death by income level of countries in 2016.

In the top 10 causes of deaths in countries by incomes level in the World (2016), Ischaemic Heart Disease was ranked:

  1. 3rd in the low-income countries – 50 deaths (per 100,000 population)
  2. 1st in the lower-middle-income countries – 120 deaths (per 100,000 population)
  3. 1st in the upper-middle-income countries – 140 deaths (per 100,000 population)

As we move up the income ladder from low-income (less than $1,035) to lower-middle income ($1,036 to $4,045) countries and further up to upper-middle-income ($4,046 to $12,535) countries, there is a clear insight that the death rate by ischaemic heart disease is increasing per 100,000 as we move up the ladder in countries with higher income.

In the current context of the pandemic in 2020, the Novel Coronavirus (COVID-19) threatened the existence of mankind. Like we know, COVID-19 is a communicable disease unlike Ischaemic Heart Disease which is a non-communicable disease.

Globally, we could clearly see the fast spread of the virus so the countries went on a complete lockdown starting Q1 2020, in order to contain the spread of the virus and save precious human lives. But, figuratively speaking, Ischaemic Heart Disease has been spreading (growing) since a century now in broad day light. Why hasn’t there been a panic lockdown of sorts to bring the death rates down? Is there anything possible that can be done to curb the issue across the globe? Has chasing growth been the be-all and end-all of the reason to live satisfied?

“If you want to change the world, start with yourself”

– Mahatma Gandhi

There is no way we can comprehend how the world became the way it is now, stressed, growth oriented & living for the future. One good thing we can do is change our individual self. It is comforting that the solution to living happy and free from heart disease or any illness is to simply live with like-minded & supportive people and that should keep you stress free. Especially because we humans are 7.5 Billion in number on planet earth. How obvious can it become?

Of course, we all live in different places with varying densities of population, political unrests and so on. But the mere idea of staying happy and stress free, if you have concerned people around is an absolute bargain. After all, the Rosetans showed us the way in the 20th century, we might as well try living like them for the better.